What is change? According to the Fat Van Dale change has 2 meanings:
- make / change differently;
- be different.
In short, changing is therefore a situation or changing one's own behavior. Two great principles for every coaching project. Because something has to change to achieve your goal, otherwise it would work without a coach.
Rusted in patterns
Every person has a whole range of patterns in his backpack. And that is not a problem at all. A cartridge is an automatic response to a particular situation. A lot of patterns are functional, because they make you do a lot of things without thinking about it. Our brains love that repetition, because then they don't have to exert so much effort. And that's quite nice! At least most of the time. Because sometimes such an automatism is a bit troubling.
But not all patterns are harmless, because patterns can really work against you. For example, the urge to snack after a bad day or the always allergic reaction to that one colleague when she notices something. These are patterns based on a negative emotion, such as stress, anger, fear or sadness.
The will to change
Patterns are often the obstacles to your attempts to achieve new goals. So patterns that have to be broken.
A change is almost always necessary to achieve a goal. And that change almost always lies in breaking through an obstacle, such as a pattern. But before you can break through that barrier, you must first discover the barrier. Then you have to recognize and accept him. Only then can you actually get started with removing the obstacle.
This search is usually a search for yourself. You also have to learn to look at yourself. From different angles. This creates the awareness that is necessary to take matters into your own hands and to change them. Then comes the question: do I change the situation or do I change myself?
Change the circumstances
You can look for the change outside yourself. So by doing something about the circumstances in which you find yourself or where a problem arises.
Note that a change of circumstances does not always solve everything. If the impediment is all or part of yourself, you are likely taking it to that new job. Then nothing appears to have been resolved.
Change your behavior
You can also choose to change your own behavior with a result that works in your favor.
Keep in mind that others can also react negatively to your change. Because if you start behaving yourself differently, it will affect the people around you. And not everyone likes changes.
How do we work on change?
You want to change, but how? It starts with becoming aware of the need for change to achieve your goals. To this end, we collect insights and experiences. We do this by actively mapping out your situation by to move and too look. Based on that knowledge, we look for the solution. The changes that are needed and the steps you need to take to bring about the change. And that necessary change is what we're doing it for!
You can work on any change through a targeted approach. Do you dare to take that step?